Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Can you Imagine?

Life is much too short.

We spend too much time surviving, and not enough time living.


Can you imagine a more perfect world? No, not a world that's perfectly safe all the time, or a world with perfect governments, or perfect people.

But a world. A very different one from ours.

Imagine with me, if you will, a world where people are just completely themselves. 
A world where stereo types don't matter, or exist, and people act just like they want to. 
A life where people act out loud, and speak their mind freely.


Cool idea, huh? Well, imagine a world, where no matter how hard something is, people strive for it.

A world with greater dreams, greater goals, and more dreamers.

A world where people don't let impossibilities stand in their way. One where mediocrity doesn't exist, and striving to accomplish your dreams, though still hard, is well worth all of the effort, and can happen to regular everyday people we know and love.


Oh, how about a world where people are nice? A world where unconditional love is an epidemic. 
One where niceness is rampant. And not just to strangers. It's really easy to be nice to strangers one knows nothing about. A world where coworkers, neighbors, family members, cousins, true friends, all of the above are just..... absolutely kind to each other. You know? Like the kind of nice that gives you the feeling that even though you are a poor imperfect human being taking part in this eternal race, you are an amazing one. Absolute joy really. Absolute brotherhood and unity. Love.


We're talking spinning hugs here people.

Imagine with me a world where people aren't considered weird. 

There isn't a difference between you, and me, and him and her. Instead, there's you, and theres me, and also him and her, and they are all people. Different from each other, but the same in their ultimate endeavors. They may be different, but they are still equal. And it's okay to be different. Because differences are new, and exciting, and they challenge our brains, and help us see this world through new eyes.


Oh, what about a world without Gossip?! A world where we see these other actions happening around us, and just accept it. We help anyone who needs it, but we don't pass unnecessary judgements.

Yeah, how about a world with no negative judgement? Where clothing, fashion statements, hair styles, eye color, hygiene, or even the kind of car some one drives doesn't matter that much. A world where that stuff is still cool, but does nothing to define a person.

How about a world where the character inside is what matters. One where we sit down, and ask a person, and ourselves, "what do I have on the inside? What do I have that will really last?" And that is what defines a person. Not their car, or their clothes, or their smarts, or even their muscles.

Here's one: what about a world where nobody cared how many "followers" they had on twitter, or how many notifications they had on any given morning. 

A world where we were so busy living, that we just lived absolutely in the moment, and didn't care about the world as it went by at its incredibly fast pace.


We could revel in our little world, and nothing else would really matter. I mean, none of the crazy things we think matter. 

We would just live so much in the moment, and so freely.

Nothing would hold us back.

Nothing I tell you! We wouldn't care what people thought of us, or if we had the best clothes, or the coolest cars, or the best reputation. 

We would just love everyone for who they were. We would love ourselves for who we are, and we would partake in as much of this great big world as we can. Because, let's face it. We never can really experience all of it.


What an amazing world it would truly be.

What if we all acted like the true child inside all of us? Truly. Or, what if we let our children act like the true children inside of them? Just let them be, and make a mess like they want to. Then clean them up and put them to bed for the night. That would be the life if you ask me.


Imagine a world where we weren't afraid. Scary things would still exist for sure. Those will always exist. But what if we weren't afraid to walk down a crowded street, or talk to that cute kid in your chemistry class, or audition for a major role, or just to get lost? What would we discover if we acted without fear?

You know, fear is a very ancient innate device that kept our ancestors from putting themselves in danger. Like, walking into a saber-toothed tiger. But we are still very skid dish creatures. Even though we have been to the moon, into volcanoes, deep into the ocean, etc.

So what if we just acted with less fear? No fear of our little worlds. What if we all walked in like we owned the place? Wouldn't that just be amazing?


Okay, so a lot of this is kind of unrealistic. However, I think that it is all encompassing of the person we see inside of our heads. The person we see ourselves as. So why not be that person?

Well, you might say that there really are things in the world to be afraid of, and there really are mean people in our world, and related to us, and we do have things to worry about, and children do need structure in their lives, and some dreams really are much too big.

So?

I may be crazy, (don't answer that...) but life is too short. Far too short. And dreams really do happen, and people really are brave, and kids are only kids for a very short time. Perhaps I'm just stuck in childhood, and just dreaming, but I don't see anything wrong with that. And I see nothing wrong with becoming the person you always wanted to become, and living out loud. 

In fact, I believe it is one of the purposes of this life. 

It's too short to waist hoping a dreaming for a day and a time and a world where all of these things can come to pass. We have to make it happen.







Tuesday, July 15, 2014

An Open Letter to My Future Spouse.

Ah, the wedding day. Love. L'Amour. 

Something little girls plan and dream of all of their lives. They watch the Disney movies and play princess, and distressing damsel. They wait and hope for an invitation to the prom, the list goes on.

I did my share of that in High School, and in my younger years, and it was fun while it lasted, but I also realized some things.

Exhibit A.


Women are in Love with a perfect Romance, which doesn't really exist. Unfortunately. 

Mostly unfortunately for men, because it makes it hard for them to live up to these feminine fantasies of a perfect relationship. Poor fellows, I do pity them. However, in my limited experience there are things that I believe would make any relationship, and any man truly perfect :) 

So, here is my open letter to my future spouse.

Hey Hun. Here are a few things that I think are just Dandy in life :)

#1: Chivalry.
It's a dying art, I know. I also know that everyone always says that, and that most guys do in fact open doors, and hold umbrellas, and all of that. But chivalry is not just opening a door you would have opened in the first place. It's how a guys speaks too. Any guy who can be kind, (and as un-foul mouthed as possible,) is truly one of a kind. Any guy who is just sweet by word and deed a like is truly chivalrous.

#2: Smarts.
I'm a smart girl. At least I think I am. So any guy I can have an intelligent conversation with is a real find. Like, a real conversation. Not just the typical Text conversation.

Girl: Hey How are you?!
Guy: Good.
Girl: What's going on?
Guy: Nothin

At this point, I as a girl just scratch my head and think..... what do I even say to that? And I probably would just go do something else to be honest. I'm talking a real conversation here. It doesn't have to be serious. Just real. Plus, someone who can understand my vocabulary and contribute to a conversation is just flat out amazing.

#3: Spontaneous Honest Fun.

If a guy said to me, "Jessica, How about we build a Fort and Watch Lord of the Rings in it all day, and eat ice cream and do a finger painting in between movies?" I would already be building the fort, and that person would have made the top of my list of favorite people for the day. And that's all totally something I will never out grow. I'm a big fan of simplicity. Yes, I also like to be fancy (see #4,) but sometimes, the simple things in life are the best. And just being randomly, simply, fun is one of the greatest ways to be happy in the world. It's something I always want in my life. It's something a good friend of mine calls the "dance with me in the rain" affect. Anyone who would dance with me in the rain, or anything to that effect is pretty much perfect :)


#4: Fine Taste.

I'm a bit of a snob sometimes. Call it cultured, living for the finer things, a snob. I love me a good Opera, a fancy dinner, and getting dressed up just because. Candle lit dinners, Jazz, I love it all. Any guy with a fine taste is a fine catch. 


So, basically if this guys walked in I would faint. Just sayin'.

#5: Communication.

I am not like many women. I can't read any minds. So, communication is key. It would certainly help everyone. Thank you kindly.

#6:Joy.

Everyone is to some extent happy. But when we can just have absolute bliss and Joy. Like the kind that lasts forever. That's amazing. I want Joy. That kind of joy in life :) And you know, I'm already a pretty happy person, but if there's someone out there that I can be blissfully happy with, Well then, I'll just be set for life.

#7: Cute.

Okay, I know that guys like to be all manly and stuff, but I'm totally for a guy who likes to be cute. And by that I mean a few things. Randomly doing cute things, Like those little simple things that make all of the difference. Showing up with random flowers, Chocolate (always a great idea. Hint hint, nod nod, wink wink...) You know? Those things that make girls go, "AWWWWW!!!!" Just adorableness.


I could honestly sit here and make a really nit picky list of all of these qualities my future husband should have, and all of that jazz, but I really can't. Because Mr. Perfect isn't exactly out there. Mr. Who knows who is out there though, and I'll know him when I find him. He'll probably have most of these just because it's what I enjoy in life! 


End of the story is, that I don't just want to settle for anyone, and I'm quite content to continue searching for exactly what I need in life. As close or far to a chick flick as that all falls doesn't matter to me. The money he has, looks he has, cars he owns, none of that really matters. (It might be nice...) but at the end of the day, I want my best friend with me forever :) and I won't quit until I find him, and everything works out. For now, I'll be the fun girl that he rightly deserves.